Since I can remember, I have always wanted to please everyone. And I think this happens to all of us. In childhood, we seek our parents’ approval; in adolescence, that of our friends; and in adulthood, that of the world. However, over time, I understood an inescapable truth: no matter how hard you try, no matter how much you perfect your art, your sport, your work, or even your way of being, there will always be someone who doesn’t like you.
It’s a fact. There is no human being on the face of the Earth who has achieved unanimous admiration. Not even the greatest geniuses, the most talented artists, or the most influential leaders have been loved by everyone. If Einstein, with his unparalleled contribution to science, had detractors, what makes us think that we will be exempt from criticism or rejection?
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if we are good enough, we will please everyone. But the reality is that perception is subjective. You can be the best writer in the world, and there will still be someone who says your style is boring. You can be the greatest painter in history, and yet there will be those who find your work uninspiring. You can be the best athlete, and yet some will prefer another competitor. Because acceptance doesn’t depend solely on what you are or what you do but on how others choose to see you.
Take Albert Einstein as an example. His theory of relativity revolutionized science and forever changed our understanding of the universe. However, in his time, many scientists dismissed him. Even today, some try to minimize his impact. Does that make his legacy any less important? No. It only proves that no matter how brilliant you are, there will always be someone who criticizes you, envies you, or simply doesn’t understand you.
Another case is Vincent van Gogh. In his lifetime, he sold only a few paintings. He was considered a failure, a madman, someone without talent or a future. Today, he is recognized as one of the greatest artists in history. The irony is that even now, some people don’t enjoy his style. The lesson is clear: it’s not about being good; it’s about understanding that not everyone will like what you do, and that’s okay.
The desire for approval is natural. We are social beings, and since ancient times, our survival depended on the acceptance of the group. Being rejected meant being in danger. However, in today’s world, this instinct is no longer a matter of life and death. Even so, we continue clinging to the idea that we must please everyone when, in reality, this is impossible and unhealthy.
Seeking everyone’s approval turns us into slaves of others’ expectations. It leads us to modify our essence, silence our opinions, and suppress our passions. And even if we manage to fit into every imposed mold, there will always be someone who criticizes us. So, what’s the point?
When we understand that we will never be able to please everyone, something magical happens: we free ourselves. We stop chasing the unattainable and begin to focus on what truly matters. Instead of trying to be the version others expect of us, we allow ourselves to be authentic.
Steve Jobs, who revolutionized technology with Apple, was known for his strong personality and lack of tact on many occasions. Despite changing the world with his ideas, not everyone admired him. In fact, many of his employees and competitors hated him. Did that stop him from making a difference? Not at all.
Even in literature, we find examples. J.K. Rowling, author of Harry Potter, has been the subject of both love and hate. She has received fierce criticism, boycotts, and even threats. But her impact is undeniable. Her story has inspired generations and will continue to do so, regardless of negative opinions. Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James was heavily criticized for its narrative and content, yet it sold millions of copies worldwide and created a massive cultural impact. The same happened with Twilight by Stephenie Meyer, which was mocked and despised by many but loved by millions of readers.
Another emblematic case is Taylor Swift. Throughout her career, she has been criticized for the themes of her songs, her personal life, and her artistic decisions. However, she has built one of the most loyal and successful fan bases in history. Every album she releases generates mixed opinions, but her influence on music is undeniable.
You don’t need to be liked by everyone, and that’s okay.
Accepting that not everyone will like you is not resignation; it’s liberation. It means you can focus on what truly matters: your purpose, your passion, your happiness. It means you can stop walking on eggshells trying to please everyone and start living authentically.
The next time you feel the weight of others’ disapproval, remember this: no matter what you do, some will criticize you. But there will also be those who love you, who find inspiration in you, who value what you do. Don’t waste your energy trying to convince those who will never be on your side. Focus on those you do reach, on those you do impact.
Accept that even if not everyone likes you, others do recognize your achievements and efforts. Accept those who don’t, appreciate those who do, always stay humble, and keep growing for yourself.
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